It seems that now, more than ever, people are suffering from anxiety, depression or both. We live in a world where stress is everywhere. There’s stress in our jobs, financials and relationships. We know from experience how soul destroying and crippling it can be… It’s also very difficult for people to understand if they haven’t experienced this imbalance themselves. I’m sure we’ll talk about this in a future post. But for now, we want to let you in on a few tips that have helped to tackle stress, anxiety and depression.
As a small disclaimer, fulfilling these once won’t rid of your problems, it takes a lot of time and commitment to get to a better place. We’ve taken the headers off the NHS website but have related it to us, we hope it helps.
Most people think of the gym when they hear to “be active”, however we’ve met some who say gyms stress them out… there are so many other options than going to the gym. We can relate to the benefits of dance, so taking a dance class or something similar would be a great as it’s also fun. It gives you some time to concentrate on something else other than what’s stressing you out or having you feel down. Make whatever you do personal and make sure it’s something you love to do.
This is the first step. You have to believe you can help yourself. We know this is definitely easier said than done. Whilst at your lowest point you don’t want to do anything, you don’t feel like you can do anything. Life feels pointless. You wake up in the morning and wish it was night again just so you could go back to sleep. Start slowly… write a journal, talk to a friend you trust. Take baby steps as the desire to want to do something isn’t automatic and won’t just appear, you have to force yourself.
Connect With People
This is important but very difficult, as a lot of people who don’t suffer from anxiety / depression can’t relate. You stop seeing and talking to friends, you cancel when you’re meant to meet up. The thought of leaving the house for anything is agonising. Explain to your friends how you’re feeling and what you’re going through, they may not understand but they’ll definitely be more forgiving when you don’t keep in contact, they’ll also then make more of an effort to connect with you. This can seem a bit overwhelming at the time but you’ll definitely appreciate the friends that were there to support you when you were at your lowest.
Have Some ‘Me’ Time
This is very different from doing nothing at all and feeling very unmotivated. We spend so much time working and doing things sometimes that time must be taken to relax and unwind. Here are some of the things we do during ‘me’ time.
- Face mask
- Read a magazine
- Watch a favourite show
- Listen to music
- Write a diary entry
You know yourself best. Write a list of things you like doing and do a few when you need to unwind.
This point is very real to us, finding excuses to stop us achieving goals and challenge ourselves. It is innate nature that people are goal orientated – small or large. When you have nothing to reach for, it makes sense why things feel pointless. So as always in this situation, take baby steps. Write a goal for your work or personal life, make it something you know you can achieve but also takes you out of your comfort zone a little. This will help build your resilience back and help you push yourself.
Avoid Unhealthy Habits
It’s important that during a time like this you don’t seek comfort in things like alcohol, smoking, caffeine or drugs. In the moment they will temporarily numb the pain but they definitely won’t help in the long run, especially as it is a time you crave comfort and dependency. If you become addicted to these they’ll actually create more problems.
Try To Be Positive
If you’ve suffered from anxiety and depression the statement to “be positive” seems laughable. The very nature of these conditions is to worry about nothing good is going to happen to you ever again… even that you don’t deserve goodness in your life. We have to make extra effort to retrain our thinking and mindset. There’s a chemical imbalance, so we need to try and fix this by releasing more happy hormones (endorphins). What we do is write a long list of everything we appreciate and are grateful for. Every morning and night, look at 3 of them, really think how lucky you are and honestly, instant happiness and gratitude is felt. The more you do it, the easier it’ll become.
Accept The Things You Can’t Change
When it comes down to it we can’t control everything, we don’t know everything and we can’t do everything. Letting go of the desire to control everything will get rid of so much of that stress. We need to just accept that sometimes, things are out of our hands and spend more time concentrating on the things you can change/improve.
Feel free to contact us if you’d like more on the topic, or just to conversate. Last thing to remember is that you’re not alone.